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Mr. Giggles
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(10-17-2017, 12:44 AM)
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Ah whiskey dick.

My old nemesis
johancruijff
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(10-17-2017, 12:44 AM)

Originally Posted by Angry Grimace

I have to admit that I understand that horrible sinking feeling when you realize you've whisky dick and it's not going to happen and you're mentally like "fuck how am I going to explain this shit."

You put your pants on and resume drinking
Izuna
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(10-17-2017, 02:15 AM)
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I just can't anymore.

This is a nightmare for jealous personalities.
WaffleTaco
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(10-17-2017, 02:18 AM)
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Originally Posted by johancruijff

You put your pants on and resume drinking

Why not at least eat her out/suck him off? At least if you won't get off, they will.
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(10-17-2017, 02:18 AM)
Even if my wife ever wanted to do this, I think I'd be uncomfortable. We've only ever had sex with each other, and doing it with other people for the first time just to get off would kind of ruin that without being really worth it.

This is just my personal current situation though. Ask me again in ten years
FUME5
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(10-17-2017, 02:21 AM)
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The whole "If you're a man and you can't perform sexually EVERY SINGLE TIME you're less of a man" is bullshit.

Sometimes it's drugs or alcohol, sometimes it's nerves, sometimes it's stress from other parts of your life, sometimes you're just not in the mood.

In your case, I'd say there's a few factors at play.

For people shitting on the OP for calling a stop to it, if you're swinging and one party is no longer enjoying themselves, you stop, end of fucking story.
ProtomanNeo
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(10-17-2017, 02:26 AM)
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Ahh yes Iíve seen this episode many times. Fortunately for me when the stakes were such, I had another substance in my system. Do not feel disgruntled OP with only 1 partner on the line Iíve fizzled out like if too drunk. Iíve learned the play is great oral and heavy making out. Create an excuse to cuddle. Youíll pass out maybe for 15 ( in my experience ) then youíll come back like a beast.
Kain-Nosgoth
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(10-17-2017, 02:30 AM)
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don't worry OP, that happens to everyone, you're still a man, thinking that is freaking bullshit, you can't always be perfect!

And i assure you there's worst... the only time i had chance to have sex, was the time i couldn't get it up, maybe too nervous but still... never got an other shot since then, and i'm affraid that if an other time comes, i will have the same problem!

Good thing i don't really care, if i have an other opportunity, i'll try my best, that's it
travisbickle
(10-17-2017, 02:37 AM)
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Just want to point out the op didnít have a foursome. Taking your pants off, then having a hissy fit and ruining everyoneís fun because you canít get it up is not having a foursome that the title implies.
Vincent Alexander
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(10-17-2017, 02:40 AM)
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Originally Posted by brawly

So, you didn't even go down on her? That's the least you could've done.

Agreed. Get that mouth workin'. God gave it to you for a reason, and it wasn't licking stamps.
Soapbox Killer
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(10-17-2017, 02:45 AM)
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Yeah so this is not about golf, like at all. I'm like sometimes your driver just doesn't do what you want it to do...well I guess that could still be relevant.

(also super freaky-deaky stuff ain't for everybody, It ain't for me)
Elegant Weapon
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(10-17-2017, 03:19 AM)
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Originally Posted by FUME5

The whole "If you're a man and you can't perform sexually EVERY SINGLE TIME you're less of a man" is bullshit.

Sometimes it's drugs or alcohol, sometimes it's nerves, sometimes it's stress from other parts of your life, sometimes you're just not in the mood.

In your case, I'd say there's a few factors at play.

For people shitting on the OP for calling a stop to it, if you're swinging and one party is no longer enjoying themselves, you stop, end of fucking story.

I imagine the people who think or say that aren't actually having much sex.

everyone has off nights. LeBron doesn't score 30 every game
Queen Vulpix
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(10-17-2017, 03:23 AM)
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I'm far from an expert but I don't think your a failure of a man or anything. Try to use it as a learning experience should a next time ever happen.

Something somewhat similar happened to me that I ended up feeling bad about. had my 2 guy friends over and had a small party, one of them didn't drink, the other did drink a little but barely affected by it and I was very drunk being the lightweight I am after some persistence on my part they helped me to my bed then things led to another and a 3 way began. After a bunch of foreplay/oral and stuff one of my guy friends asked if it was okay to try anal and I drunkenly said sure (didn't want to be penetrated vaginally while drunk and stuff) but after a few minutes of it hurting quite a bit, unsurprisingly, while trying to deal with it I asked for him to stop and afterwards I felt like I ruined the night for both of them. I ended up passing out naked on my bed only minutes after because 1am suddenly 4am oh well haha
Staccat0
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(10-17-2017, 05:25 AM)
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People in here scolding the OP over foursome etiquette... címon... that shit is emotionally tricky.
When it comes to sex, even group sex, people should just be honest about what they want.

If youíre entering into a group sex situation, you gotta be ready for peopleís irrational feelings to put shit to a hault and you better be cool enough to not get pissed that you had to stop.
Haines
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(10-17-2017, 05:29 AM)
Lmao at everyone,

Yeah op was just supposed to let his wife get railed while he sits there with a limp dick, yall are taking this acting like your a damn saint on the internet too far
Aselith
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(10-17-2017, 05:49 AM)
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Originally Posted by Haines

Lmao at everyone,

Yeah op was just supposed to let his wife get railed while he sits there with a limp dick, yall are taking this acting like your a damn saint on the internet too far

I mean he was going to let her get railed as long as he was allowed to get his dick wet too. Was it an exchange of goods or were they just having a good time with some free love? I hope the OP didn't think of it as trading cause that would not be too cool.
Alexander DeLarge
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(10-17-2017, 05:59 AM)
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Originally Posted by chugen

you think he just said to them "we should stop" and everyone just stopped and got dressed without op explaining to them why

Uh, yes? He's the significant other of five years to this girl.
pigeon
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(10-17-2017, 06:05 AM)

Originally Posted by Aselith

I mean he was going to let her get railed as long as he was allowed to get his dick wet too. Was it an exchange of goods or were they just having a good time with some free love? I hope the OP didn't think of it as trading cause that would not be too cool.

...if everybody was consenting on that basis, why would it not be cool?

Some modern day Puritans up in this thread.
Crazyorloco
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(10-17-2017, 06:10 AM)
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Alcohol seems to help some guys, but for me alcohol kills my erection.

It does help me take the initiative more with girls though.
HotHamBoy
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(10-17-2017, 06:11 AM)
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Nothing is worse than not being able to maintain an erection for whatever reason and having the girl become insecure and tell you she thinks it's her fault.
Aselith
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(10-17-2017, 06:14 AM)
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Originally Posted by pigeon

...if everybody was consenting on that basis, why would it not be cool?

Some modern day Puritans up in this thread.

Well, thinking of it as trading implies possession rather than just a consent to allow extra- relationship sex to happen. Like, I think me *giving* you my girlfriend in exchange for your girlfriend has a different connotation than I'm ok with you guys having sex and you're ok with me having sex with the person you are in a relationship with.

I dunno I mean it's complicated but it felt a little to me like withdrawing from a trade because you didn't like the terms now that you won't get your part. I think particularly the use of the word "fair" in relation to it made me feel that way.
wandering
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(10-17-2017, 06:16 AM)

Originally Posted by Elegant Weapon

I imagine the people who think or say that aren't actually having much sex.

everyone has off nights. LeBron doesn't score 30 every game

To me, equating masculinity to sex in the first place is pretty dumb.
Elegant Weapon
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(10-17-2017, 06:30 AM)
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Originally Posted by wandering

To me, equating masculinity to sex in the first place is pretty dumb.

I somewhat agree but I'm curious what you think defines masculinity?
J_Viper
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(10-17-2017, 06:35 AM)
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Originally Posted by Kain-Nosgoth

don't worry OP, that happens to everyone, you're still a man, thinking that is freaking bullshit, you can't always be perfect!

And i assure you there's worst... the only time i had chance to have sex, was the time i couldn't get it up, maybe too nervous but still... never got an other shot since then, and i'm affraid that if an other time comes, i will have the same problem!

Good thing i don't really care, if i have an other opportunity, i'll try my best, that's it

This is exactly me. Though the first time was with a hooker, second with an older woman from Bumble, so maybe not the most relaxed situations

I'm not too upset about it myself either, but it's a bit frustrating to worry about another equipment failure if I end up in another situation
Radec
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(10-17-2017, 06:53 AM)
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It happens.

Also should have let them finish. Your fingers and tongue still works man..
FallingEdge
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(10-17-2017, 06:54 AM)
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Originally Posted by Elegant Weapon

I imagine the people who think or say that aren't actually having much sex.

everyone has off nights. LeBron doesn't score 30 every game

He averages around 30 a game tho 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
Valkerionseven
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(10-17-2017, 07:03 AM)
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It happens OP, by your story it's most likely a result of drinking too much/fatigue, it happens.

Don't drink so much since it seems like your susceptible to this as a result, get a good rest if you know your going to try again sometime. Pregame a bit/more foreplay but don't blow your load.

All the usual sex advice for dudes who went limp one time and are now freaking out.
Elegant Weapon
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(10-17-2017, 07:03 AM)
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Originally Posted by FallingEdge

He averages around 30 a game tho 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

That's cause Bron has the right mentality and is committed to being the best every time he steps onto the court

I know if my head isn't in the game, I'll lose a hard on no matter what's happening.
bigboss370
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(10-17-2017, 07:48 AM)
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whats this whiskey dick everyone is talking about?

wouldn't drinking help with any anxiety or nerves and actually enable an erection?
CrimzonSamurai
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(10-17-2017, 07:51 AM)
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Originally Posted by bigboss370

whats this whiskey dick everyone is talking about?

wouldn't drinking help with any anxiety or nerves and actually enable an erection?

Alcohol limits the ability of your blood vessels to dilate, and enough can just make it so you can't get an erection.

Also is there really such a thing as a four-way, or is it just two couples having sex next to each other?
lucebuce12
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(10-17-2017, 07:54 AM)
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Originally Posted by CrimzonSamurai

Alcohol limits the ability of your blood vessels to dilate, and enough can just make it so you can't get an erection.

Also is there really such a thing as a four-way, or is it just two couples having sex next to each other?

A four-way is a thing but this is not that. This is just couple swap.
FallingEdge
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(10-17-2017, 07:56 AM)
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Originally Posted by Elegant Weapon

That's cause Bron has the right mentality and is committed to being the best every time he steps onto the court

I know if my head isn't in the game, I'll lose a hard on no matter what's happening.

True true. It is why I tell my dick before I bang that we need to get ready as I take my talents to south peach.
FUME5
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(10-17-2017, 07:56 AM)
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Originally Posted by bigboss370

whats this whiskey dick everyone is talking about?

wouldn't drinking help with any anxiety or nerves and actually enable an erection?

Drink too much booze and the increase in blood pressure can cause ED issues, that's usually combined with a reduction in sensation 'cause your nervous system is depressed, so it can be a double whammy for your dick.

You could drink the same amount and be able to maintain a rager for hours though, so it's not a given that trying to fuck when very drunk will always result in failure.
RinsFury
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(10-17-2017, 07:58 AM)
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Originally Posted by Haines

Lmao at everyone,

Yeah op was just supposed to let his wife get railed while he sits there with a limp dick, yall are taking this acting like your a damn saint on the internet too far

Why not? She was having a good time by his account, why should she not be allowed to have some fun?
VendettaRed07
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(10-17-2017, 07:58 AM)
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Originally Posted by Aselith

I mean he was going to let her get railed as long as he was allowed to get his dick wet too. Was it an exchange of goods or were they just having a good time with some free love? I hope the OP didn't think of it as trading cause that would not be too cool.

I donít think the definition of what it strictly was matters much. If his girlfriend wasnít into it and wanted to stop having sex with the other dude and OP and the other girl were getting off on each other just fine, would anyone say ďwow she made you stop midway? What a cockblocker!Ē If she wanted him to stop as well? I donít think they would.

If OPís requirement to allowing another man fuck his girlfriend infront of his face was an equivalent exchange of semen expulsion then thereís nothing wrong with that.
lsslave
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(10-17-2017, 08:00 AM)

Originally Posted by Kain-Nosgoth

don't worry OP, that happens to everyone, you're still a man, thinking that is freaking bullshit, you can't always be perfect!

And i assure you there's worst... the only time i had chance to have sex, was the time i couldn't get it up, maybe too nervous but still... never got an other shot since then, and i'm affraid that if an other time comes, i will have the same problem!

Good thing i don't really care, if i have an other opportunity, i'll try my best, that's it

We've all had bad nights. Don't write off another time. Be honest with your partner you're nervous. If it fails take a few minutes and try again. Don't force it.

My last one night stand I was too drunk to get it up and when we tried in the morning I was so hungover I almost threw up on her. For a week I was terrified it could be ED and then realized I still had morning wood.

Do some pushups before your next chance. Get that testosterone up a bit! And masturbate without pornography. Masturbation good porn bad apparently.
bosseye
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(10-17-2017, 08:05 AM)
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Don't worry about it OP, we've all been there. Not the foursome bit, the flaccid in the face of spread legs bit.

It's frustrating. But there are any number of reasons for it to happen, chief among those being your foolish treacherous brain. The one time you want it off and for your body to react on instinct alone your brain starts getting involved and overthinking it.

Best thing to do is just shrug it off, laugh about it and don't concern yourself with next time.
Aselith
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(10-17-2017, 08:20 AM)
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Originally Posted by VendettaRed07

I donít think the definition of what it strictly was matters much. If his girlfriend wasnít into it and wanted to stop having sex with the other dude and OP and the other girl were getting off on each other just fine, would anyone say ďwow she made you stop midway? What a cockblocker!Ē If she wanted him to stop as well? I donít think they would.

If OPís requirement to allowing another man fuck his girlfriend infront of his face was an equivalent exchange of semen expulsion then thereís nothing wrong with that.

The issue I see is that rather than being uncomfortable with the situation like you are describing with the girlfriend (not into it), the OP stopped her because he didn't feel he was getting a fair trade. I feel a little hinkey about that commodotization of his girlfriend.

If he was having trouble with feelings the foursome was bringing up in him or whatever, I get it but that's not what he described. Seems a little objectifying.
MogCakes
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(10-17-2017, 08:20 AM)
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If for whatever reason I ever found myself in a group sex situation with my SO and she expressed her desire for me to stop, I would stop. Respect for your SO is more important than your orgasm, unless you're an asshole.
SmackDaddy
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(10-17-2017, 08:23 AM)
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Originally Posted by Aselith

The issue I see is that rather than being uncomfortable with the situation like you are describing with the girlfriend (not into it), the OP stopped her because he didn't feel he was getting a fair trade. I feel a little hinkey about that commodotization of his girlfriend.

If he was having trouble with feelings the foursome was bringing up in him or whatever, I get it but that's not what he described. Seems a little objectifying.

man, non-monogamy is complicated as shit.
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(10-17-2017, 08:23 AM)
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Pure degeneracy.

Originally Posted by crimzonflame

thats not a foursome

lol
Aselith
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(10-17-2017, 08:29 AM)
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Originally Posted by SmackDaddy

man, non-monogamy is complicated as shit.

Only if you're doing advanced calculus to balance the semen scales and shit. You ever tried to calculate compound interest on anal? It's not easy let me tell you.
One Eyed Willy
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(10-17-2017, 08:48 AM)
You're 27, thats when boners start to break ... slowly. Nerves, alcohol, drugs, age.. it's a losing battle. Now you know why most guys can't be porn stars lol

Originally Posted by bigboss370

whats this whiskey dick everyone is talking about?

wouldn't drinking help with any anxiety or nerves and actually enable an erection?

Whisky dick is when you drink too much whisky or hard liquor, not having like 2 drinks to calm your nerves.
Prototype Viktor
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(10-17-2017, 09:50 AM)
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i wouldn't call that a foursome just straight swinging. Seems to be like OP you like the idea of that or open relationship or even Poly but not the execution of it

just role play with your woman and leave it at that or at least do a Poly relationship for her sake
MeatGrinder
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(10-17-2017, 10:51 AM)
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Hot damn, I would never let my SO get fucked by another guy. I am too jealous for that and she knows. How you did it OP, I have no idea.

And yeah, thatís not a foursome, thatís a couple swap.
TimmmV
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(10-17-2017, 02:36 PM)
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Originally Posted by Haines

Lmao at everyone,

Yeah op was just supposed to let his wife get railed while he sits there with a limp dick, yall are taking this acting like your a damn saint on the internet too far

This is one where either side trying to go on without the other is kind of shitty. Obviously one person demanding everyone else stop because they cant be involved is pretty selfish, but the others just carrying on and leaving that guy out really sucks too, especially given the intimacy involved with what they were all doing
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(10-17-2017, 02:41 PM)
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Whiskey dick, happens to the best of us, buddy. Don't drink too much next time and you'll be boning like a pro.
Savitar
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(10-17-2017, 02:47 PM)
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Alcohol gives the desire but takes away from the performance.
Kintaco
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(10-17-2017, 05:02 PM)
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Originally Posted by Aselith

The issue I see is that rather than being uncomfortable with the situation like you are describing with the girlfriend (not into it), the OP stopped her because he didn't feel he was getting a fair trade. I feel a little hinkey about that commodotization of his girlfriend.

If he was having trouble with feelings the foursome was bringing up in him or whatever, I get it but that's not what he described. Seems a little objectifying.

Maybe you missed this bit in the OP. Maybe he didn't explain the situation and his feelings correctly.

It's kind of hard to write about this, but I'll try the best I can. English is not my first language, so please excuse any mistakes.

I mean he calls it a foursome when it's obviously a partner swap.

Edit:
Here's his clarification.

Originally Posted by t1gerjaw

Oh, but I did go down on her, more than once.

I'll try to clarify the "fairness" thing. I know it's shitty, but it would make me feel even worse not being able to do anything and just watch.

These situations are not emotionless things, if someone is not feeling it they are totally entitled to changed their mind about continuing. And if he and his GF have a good relationship you would expect her to have his emotional feelings as a priority. These things break up relationships because people don't respect other people's feelings. Everyone should be enojoying it not just some.
Acyl
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(10-17-2017, 05:38 PM)
[QUOTE=Also is there really such a thing as a four-way, or is it just two couples having sex next to each other?[/QUOTE]

You can't have three girls and 1 guy or 3 guys and 1 girl? or two couples all involved together? My imagination can stretch on and on, sadly lol

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